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Thursday, January 16, 2020

Pain will make you careless

January 16, 2020 0 Comments









In this weekly blog, I would like to talk about pain and carelessness. They go hand and hand.  Friends they are. Let me give you an example. Think about when you stump your pinky toe on a wall or something. When that pain hits your body you can hardly stand. You will jump around or almost fall over.  Throbbing in pain you start to yell and scream or maybe even cussing because it hurts so bad.  That is what I mean by being careless. The pain will put you in a postilion where you will stumble out of pure agony. That sudden aching in your body will cause a chain reaction that makes you either scream out or kneel down.




The word careless means not giving sufficient attention or thought to avoid harm or errors. If you don't know let me tell you that I have written a book about careless relationships entitled " Know your Crazy Accept your Crazy'.  In this book, I address the issues of relationships that have left us in a state of craziness. I assist women in knowing their crazy and accepting it in order to have peace with yourselves. In the book, I talk mostly about our outside relationships but I would like to talk about the one we have with ourselves. Too often we are careless with ourselves. We will allow people to take us places we don't need or want to go and/or do things to us that harm us in ways that sometimes we do not recover from without the healing hand of Jesus. 



When we are in pain and don't pay attention to the matters that are affecting us we begin to become reactionary in our behavior. We develop an attitude of "I want to get them before they get me". The old saying goes "Hurt People Hurt People". We will scream and yell at people for things that are not their fault. We become so sensitive that it seems that everyone is looking to harm us. We judge every action, look and possible body language to see if we can find a reason to snap. This is carelessness. Everyone is not out to get you or make you feel bad. You are in pain and until you address your own issues and concerns you will continue to fight against everyone and/or yourself instead of dealing with the problem.




The carelessness that we have comes from us sitting and stewing in the "what they did to me "pot. When we don't take responsibility for what we did or did not do to get us out of pain. Now let clarify what I am saying. 
I believe that anything that happens to you as a child is not your fault. You have every right to feel hurt and pain because of someone else actions toward you. That pain is real. But that pain should not and can't control your whole life. When you have been a victim of someone else you have to learn how to become victorious and live a life of freedom. When we are adults and start doing things on our own(making an adult decision about who we are and where we want to be) then you have to be careful with your life and how you live it. 




I leave you with a story of a woman that was careless with her relationship with God. Her name was Miriam, Moses' sister. She was a sister to the man that was to take God's people out of the land of oppression to the land flowing with milk and honey. She was a prophetess for the All-Mighty God. Miriam had seen the blessings, miracles, and wrath of God. But at some point her relationship with God change. In chapter 12 of Genesis, she was angry that Moses as going to divorce his wife and instead of going to talk to Moses she went to her brother Aaron and criticizes Moses' position in God. I going stop right here and say What is meant for you is for you. God anoints each one of us with the gifts that only we can handle. Miriam had no right to question, God. Be careful that you don't become a when person. This is a person that remembers you back when and can't grasp the new you when God appoints you. This often happens with family but friends and fellow church members can be a part of the when committee. 

Conclusion   

Are you careless in the seven areas of your life ( Spiritual, Emotional, Verbal, Mental, Finacial Physical or Sexual?
Where do you find you hurt the most?
Are you willing to seek out help?
Is it possible for me to help you?

If you need and want to work one on one through your journey of pain I am here for you. You can reach me at email address cyntrob01@yahoo.com.
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Thursday, January 09, 2020

Pain is the word

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This week we will be discussing the word pain. This word is one that we know well because we are either in pain or coming out of it.  Pain for some of us is something we can't tolerate. Once it appears we deal with it immediately. But for some pain becomes a friend that we know well and we refuse to let go. We seat with it and will complain about it but won't let it go because we find comfort in the pain.

 Pain, as it is defined in Merriam- Webster dictionary is "localized or generalized unpleasant bodily sensation or complex of sensations that causes mild to severe physical discomfort and emotional distress and typically results from bodily disorder (such as injury or disease)." This means that somewhere in your body, there is a dis-ease.  Dis-ease can be physical, emotional, mental or even spiritual. It may start as a little discomfort but can turn into a constant sensation that won't let you go. I love acronyms so here is mine for pain. I describe it as the following:

P-Persistent
A- Aggravating
I- Invited
N -Nature


The P stands for  Persistent.  Persistent is defined "as existing for a long or longer than usual time or continuously".  The persistent dis-ease will show up regularly to remind you to fix that issue you have not dealt with. It will continue to appear until you take care of it. A few examples would be the doctor's appointment that you need to make but haven't even though your stomach is bothering you. You know you need to get that lump that is under your armpit looked at. You have not been happy at work for a few months but you stay because it is convenient. The Lord is calling you back to him but you ignore the call by making excusing as to why you are not listening to him.  When we do not deal with the issue the issue will deal with us. 

The A stands for Aggravating.  Aggravating is defined as "arousing displeasure, impatience, or anger". Have you noticed that when our pain is persistent that you because of anger about how you are feeling? Maybe you become impatient with how long the pain is staying around. I mean some days it comes and goes and then others it lingers. You either suffer in silence or to complain to everybody that will listen. The ironic thing is that you won't deal with it and yet you mad it.

The I stands for Invited. Yes, I said invited.  The word invited means "to increase the likelihood of". The likelihood of you uninviting the pain is not. You could get rid of the pain by simply addressing the issue but you refuse. You either fear what's causing the pain( lost love, physical harm, mental anguish, or spiritual abandonment )  or you know the area of discomfort and can't bear dealing with it. You believe that this will just add to your pain. You rather keep the unwanted discomfort than gets right with yourself. 

The last letter is N for Nature.  The word nature means  "the inherent character or basic constitution of a person or thing". What is your nature? Do you have integrity or deceitful? Are you loyal or unfaithful?  Are you loving or unloving? Are you kind or mean?  Do you have self-control or you self- indulgent? Your nature is your inherent character. It is what you believe about you.  Look at your nature and you will see why your pain is lingering?









Now, I have shown you the negative side of pain but there is a positive side to pain. That right pain can have a positive side. When pain is plural it turns positive. The word pains mean trouble, care, or effort taken to accomplish something. When we take pains to resolve an issue we are working to be careful with our lives. When we pains are taking you to begin to move in the right direction to turn things and start a new. You will then go to the doctor and find out that lump is just an ingrown hair and not a tumor.  You will start looking for a new job or start that business you always wanted.  You will begin to listen to the voice of God and move closer to him knowing that he loves you always. When you take out the fear of moving to the next level in your life instead of complaining about the facts that were you are is not working anymore. When you begin to love you to so much that negative in your life no matter has placed you will see the pain will go away.




  Pain finds Comfort  




Can I leave you with this story? In the book of Luke chapter  8, a woman had an issue blood. Her issue plagued her for 12 years. She went to doctors they were no help. She spent all she had looking for help to stop the pain and to no avail. Then one day Jesus comes to town and she knows in her spirit that if she could get to him she would be healed. She had no doubt that is what she needed to do. She pressed her way through the crowd and when that didn't work, she got down on her knees and crawled just so she could touch the hem of his garment. Once she did that her Pain touched Jesus' comfort and turned her life around. Jesus said to her "Daughter, be of good comfort: thy faith hath made thee whole; go in peace. 
My sisters, when was the last time your faith made you whole. When you trusted in God to the point that you didn't need his whole hand, but the pinky tip would do.  Your pain or issues would go away if your faith would allow for no doubt.
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Wednesday, January 01, 2020

Let's Reboot

January 01, 2020 0 Comments

                                                                     

It’s January 2020, and YOU MADE IT. Here you are all bright-eyed and committed to doing a new thing and expecting great things to happen in the upcoming year. It’s a new day, a new decade and a new year. You are here, but now what? I mean weren’t you here last year and the year before promising to get better, resolving to change.  You went to work to get all the information to make the changes to move out of that stale place. To become a better you and live your best life. But you could not move; you did not move. So, what are you going to do differently this year? I say to you Lets REBOOT. Yes, I said REBOOT.




The word reboot is defined as an act or instance of making a change in order to establish a new beginning.


Isn’t that exactly what you are looking for? A new beginning? The bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:17 Anyone who is joined to Christ is a new being: the old is gone, the new has come. The old is gone. The old way of acting is gone. The old way of doing things is gone.  That old way of thinking is gone. The old way of seeing yourself as not enough when really you are everything God made you be and he said it is very good (Genesis 1:31). We are going to reboot this year and I mean the whole year. I am going to right be your side as we climb mountains, walk through valleys and then soar toward the blessings, dreams and the love we desire. 
Last year or maybe for a few years there were some areas of your life that we can say you “got lost in the sauce”. You started out on top of the world ready to take it on. You were going to transform your life whether that was financially, mentally and physically. You were on fire. You were talking to all the right people, moving in the right circles and making moves. Then life happened and you were sidelined by circumstances, not under your control (illness, job loss or business failure, or sudden death of an immediate family member). You thought with just a little time you could get back on track but another major issue happens and you are on the floor not able to get up. Life has knocked you down completely and you don’t know how to get up. You feel alone, afraid and angry. You’re wondering where the God is you serve and how come he hasn’t shown up yet. You're thinking its rough down here and you remind God, in prayer, that he says that he would supply all your needs. You certainly need him right now.
Your emotions have gotten the best of you and every thought is how am I going to get up from here? What am I going to do if this or that does not work out for me? God, please? You have been here in this place for a month, 2 months, 6 months, 1 year or even more. Your emotions have you going up and down from day today. You are stuck. No, you are beyond stuck you have crashed. You can’t seem to get past this. You need a REBOOT.

Your spiritual life has taken a hit. You still love God but your feelings toward him have been hurt. You know he is there, but it seems that you have been Satan’s punching bag for a while. You need a release from the constant feelings of condemnations for feeling the way you feel towards God, but your feelings are bruised and raw. You want to just feel God the way you did before when it was good when worship was easy. but it has been a long time and you just don’t know.  If this is you, then you are in a careless place.  You have a few things at work right now that are preventing you from moving forward. My sister, you need a REBOOT.


This Reboot will be your rebirth. God has had you in a place of isolation and you have been there for a reason. There are some people, places and things that you need to reach but they will require a new outlook to be able to penetrate pass as the Bible puts it “ but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” Ephesians 6:12.

You have been fighting and probably did not know it. I know I did not know. I just thought I was just as we say “going through” like a good servant of the Lord. But really I was fighting because I had a message that had to get out and if the “against posse” can keep me distracted by life concerns and issues I would never help the people that I was sent here to help. When you are hurting you can’t help nobody but yourself and sometimes not even yourself. I had to Reboot. I needed to be reborn.  I had to be revived. And guess what happened?  I got out of my stalled place and I am telling everybody that will listen about it and how to get out.

                                           



This year I am going to be blogging about three words that are at the root of our inner fight, Pain Trauma, and Impact.  These three words work hand and hand on how our lives are either careless or careful. When we are in pain and do not take the necessary action to relieve ourselves it becomes a trauma. Then that trauma starts to show up and if the painful area is not dealt with immediately and precise care, it will begin to have a negative impact on your lives. We become angry, cynical, disheartened and resentful. We either play the blame game (blaming others for your problems) or we become martyrs (we wear the pain like a badge of honor for everyone to see).

This year I will deal with all three words separately. I will break them down so you can see where you need a Band-Aid, a tourniquet or surgical removal. I will blog in a three-part quarterly series. Pain (Jan-Mar) Trauma (Apr- June) Impact (July- Sept) and ending the year with a conference where we can come together and see all the Careful warriors and hear how their success stories and power moves. Pain is the first in this series. Today I  will talk about the pain factor in its different forms of dis-ease.

                                             

Pain, as defined in Merriam-Webster dictionary, is a localized or generalized unpleasant bodily sensation or complex of sensations that causes mild to severe physical discomfort and emotional distress and typically results from bodily disorder (such as injury or disease)

The pain you feel is real and valid.  You have been through a lot. Whether that pain is spiritual, emotional, financial, mental, or physical, there is pain. Your pain may have initially been bearable.  You were able to function without thinking about the pain. Then as people, places, and things began to put more pressure on you the pain becomes worse.  Where you once could get up in the morning and feel the pain but go on with your day you can no longer do it. Now you can’t ignore it. That persistent sensation won’t let you go, and I am saying REBOOT.

Yes, the pain is there. Yes, you feel it daily. Yes, you feel like giving up. I know exactly what you are going through. But don’t give up. I want you to sit down. I want you to relax and take off those old worn-out shoes. Take off the cares of yesteryear and give them to Jesus (1 Peter 5:7). I want you to put on a new pair of shoes. If you like high heels put them on. If you like cowboy boots, well put that on. If you are like me, without arches on either foot, find a comfortable pair of boots or shoes because I need your feet shod. Yes, Shod. In Ephesians 6:15 it says “And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; “. Your feet need to be ready because the warfare will change because your feet will take you to a new place because that pain will be going away.  Get your feet ready to stomp on the head of the “against posse” so you can live out your blessings, live out your dreams. Live out your mission and vision. My sisters this is it. Get ready to step into a new thing!

       How is pain showing up in your life that needs to change?

Will you join me? Do you want to come out of a state of pain? If so, the first step is to write down the pain in your life. Where is it? As the Lord said to Habakkuk 2:2 “ And the Lord answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that readeth it.”

Spiritual-Do you feel an absence of God in your personal relationship with him?
Mental- Do you feel that you are losing it more and more every day?
Emotional- Do you cry more and more every day in your quiet place?
Verbal- Do you lash out at people for anything and everything?
Financial- Are you spending money you don’t have on things you don’t need and complaining later once the bills come in?
Physical- Does your health need an immediate overhaul?
                                                        Sexual- Do I have to say it?

                         Let’s reboot for a new day, a new year and a new decade.
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Wednesday, January 30, 2019

Moving forward comes with a cost

January 30, 2019 0 Comments





As we go into February, some of us start the new year off with either resolutions or goals. You may have made or going to make a vision board to see the things you want to achieve this year. Maybe you work on a physical makeover. You either work out or make calls able going through a surgical procedure. Wherever you are on the journey, there will be a cost to move forward. One woman in the bible that moves forward with a cost is Esther. Her story is about when she went before the King on the behalf of the Jewish people. There have been conferences, movies, and sermons based on the famous saying “for such a time as this” (Esther 4:14). But there were steps that happen before that wonderful scene. Esther had to move forward.  
There are three steps to moving forward. They are: 
1. Let go of your past 
2. Embrace your present 
3. Get prepared for your future  
1. Let go of your past  
The story of Esther begins with a young girl living with her Uncle Morcedai during the time of Jerusalem captivity (Esther 2:5-7) in the provinces of Persia. The king Ahasuerus was angry because the Queen Vashi did not obey him when he requested her. (1:10-12) He sent out a decree looking for a new queen among the maidens of the land. (2:1-4). When the king's commandment went out to find maidens they chose Esther. Her uncle sent her two things a goodbye and a statement Don't show who you are (2:10).  
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When you are going to the next level of your destiny,  people will let you go or stop you. When God is moving you there’s a cost. God will take people, places and things out of the immediate circle. We may leave behind family and friends. Your hometown may not be the city of growth for you. The things you value the most will be the first thing to go.  This is necessary to further you in your purpose. It’s costly to walk in purpose. 
2. Embrace Your Present 
They took Esther into the palace and she finds favor with Hegai the keeper of the women (2:9). They gave her other maiden to help her. She now has to go through her purification. This will last 12 months. Yes, a year. She needs to get clean. The maidens could not go before the king in their own clothes.  They are to be cleaned in myrrh and sweet odors. They need transformation. 
Embracing your present requires change. You are now going through a process of renewal. This will be the most difficult part. It will not take place overnight.  It will be weeks, months or in Esther time a year. Yes, a year. To embrace your present, you must change from a caterpillar into a butterfly. In order for that to happen, you must go into yourself and begin the purging away of things that are keeping you in on the hamster wheel. You will need help as Esther did with Hegai. You need someone to assist you in the process because if you don‘t you will stay where you are out of fear or procrastination. Jesus sent the Holy Spirit to be a comforter to us as we go through the process (John 14:26 / 15:26). The Holy Spirit wants to lead us into the truth of God and the relationship the King wants to have with you but if we don’t allow him, he will not push you. The Holy Spirit is God, and he is a gentleman.  It's your choice move forward or still stuck. 
Esther was on her way to becoming a queen. She was going through the purification (process).  She was around new people and places. She was learning new things. Her past could not go with her because it would have hindered her.  
3. Get prepared for your future 
Well, as the story goes Esther gets her time with King and wins his heart (2:15-17). We now have Queen Esther. A young captive Jewish girl is now the Queen of Persia. Yes, God will do it. It puts Esther to the test not too long after becoming Queen. She faced with a dilemma. There has been a decree that would put the Jewish people (her people) in danger of existence(3:8-13). Mordecai learns of the decree he went into mourning (4:1). He knows he needed to inform the  Queen. He tells her they are in danger and she has to do something. She was in this palace for a reason and it is now up to her to save them (4:14).  She told the people to go on a three-day fast with her and her maidens.   Queen Esther had to get a before the face of the King. She had to get a plan that would save her people (4:15-17).  
When we are moving forward, we need to be prepared for the obstacles that will come our way. Some will come fast and some will come later. We will need to have a relationship with God that will allow us to get before his face and ask for direction. They have crowned Esther the Queen of 
Persia but she was a Queen in the Kingdom of God. She was going before the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords for an answer. She knows this would require a total devotion to God. No food, No drink, just prayer, and supplication. How can you be a Queen and not know how the kingdom is run? Jesus told us that some things only can forth with prayer and fasting (Mark 9:29). Know how to get before the King for yourself. Yes, Esther had the support of the Jewish people but she herself would pray for the answer on how to save them. You may be the one to save your family. Get prepared on how to pray for them, talk to them, and stand in the gap on their behalf. Show up as a Queen and not a maiden.  
Conclusion, 
We all know the end of the story. Queen Esther saves her people and the enemies of the people were killed by their own devices. My sisters, as you go through-out this year please prepare for your purpose. Know that your past cannot come. It is your testimony, not your life. Embrace your present. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. Change is painful but necessary. Prepare for your future. Learn the scriptures, be ready for all the enemies arrows. If you are not prepared, you are going to get knocked down a lot.  
To move forward is going to cost but, it is well worth it.  
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